Hey boo. Anxious to get someplace? When I’m not paying attention, that seems to be my default position. I caught myself in it just now. A little tension in my jaw. Determination? That’s what it feels like— and yet I couldn’t tell you precisely what that determination is pointing at. A habitual form of getting… Continue reading Monday Love
There it is. The thing we’re all scrambling around, trying with all our might (and TV and cell phones, and movies, and drugs and alcohol and sex) to forget. No getting around it. You can look at this with doom and gloom falling deeper into the grip of fear, or you can allow it… Continue reading At some point in this life, you will lose everything you love.
Today is five of five in my exploration of mindful parenting. What keeps coming back to me is how I do anything is how I do everything. How I live my life is directly connected to how I parent. Nothing is separate. It’s not me over here and my kids over there. It includes… Continue reading Mindful Parenting: Divorce, Baby Daddy and Me.
Sometimes I take dance breaks. Today I’m breaking for smiles. An achy head is making me kinda fuzzy today, and I’m finding it hard to write the post I wanted. Number 5 in my five -part series exploring mindful parenting, can wait. This moment calls for deep kindness in the form of permission to choose… Continue reading Taking a Laughter Break: Mindfulness with an Achy Head
Today I was going to explore more on the topic of boundaries, but as life would have it (always life has its way with me) my fifteen-year-old son has given me a beautiful growth opportunity this week…and I am in it! Usually I like to wait until I am on the other side of… Continue reading Plant Strange Seeds: Parenting Mindfully, The Teens You Adore.
There’s an expression, give’em enough rope to hang him/herself. It suggests if one gives someone enough freedom of action, they may destroy themselves by foolish actions. Contrary to this, I was raising my kids within a philosophy of freedom. I chose a school (pre-k and elementary) for them that’s part of a free school… Continue reading Mindful Parenting: Creating Boundaries Not Walls
Sixteen seconds of pleasure. That’s what I’m practicing for the next month. First thing when I wake up. No, not that kind of pleasure. Though it could be. Today was day two, and something amazing happened already. And yes, it’s parenting-related. Stay with me for a moment. Mindfulness does not ask that you never… Continue reading Tuning Out and Plugging In. Mindfully. — connecting with our kids, part 2 —
So what am I here to say about this business of parenting and the practice of mindfulness? Of being a single, divorced mama of two teenage boys? I’m confused, all the time. I never know what’s the right thing to do or say. I feel torn watching them drift further and further into their own… Continue reading Creating connections with our kids: mindfulness and parenting
Have you ever wondered what that saying means: It’s not what you do, but how you do it? What does this actually look like in everyday life, for example when you are really pissed off about something? Or how about this one? I learned it in therapy: It’s not what you do, but who… Continue reading It’s Not What, But How
17 years ago as I was leaving St. Vincent’s hospital in New York City, I found myself standing on the sidewalk with my newborn, as my then husband hailed a cab. It was a cold November morning, we were all bundled up, my son in a red fleecy thing my Mom made him. A feeling… Continue reading Crumbs on the Couch